Jack Schafer being a professor of psychology has been working as a special agent in FBI for long. In any of the covert operations he could turn on his charm if needed. Jack says that there is a golden rule using which one can make anyone like him. The rule says: “Make the person like themselves”. How to do this? Check the following information.
The Helpful Rules
There is a set of sub rules, which help to apply the main rule mentioned above.
- Make a Mistake
When Jack Schafer gives a lesson in a new class, he intentionally makes a mistake in pronunciation of a word and lets students correct his mistake. He expresses an embarrassment and thanks for attention and correction.
- Firstly, students feel more comfortable if they correct the professor.
- Secondly, they start to communicate easier with their tutor.
- The last thing is that they are not afraid to make mistakes.
This technique may be applied to any person. Show up your not being brilliant and people will like you.
- Make a Compliment from the Third Person
Sometimes direct compliments make people feel uncomfortable and sound not really natural. Thus, you should better make a compliment from the third person. All you need is just mention that somebody told something good about the skills or features of the person you are talking with now.
- Do Not Forget to Sympathize
Every person is more interested in themselves, than in other people. This is completely natural. You will make many more friends within 2 months if you will express your being interested in people in comparison to 2 years of trying to make them interested in you. Also, people like phrases expressing sympathy. What do we mean? Everyone likes if others shares their emotions. However, if a person tells a story of an awful day, there is no need to say “Oh my God, a poor you!” especially if this is your boss. The better variant is “You had a hard day today. It happens”. Also, you may say “You had difficulties, but you have coped with them. This is great”. Don`t express your sympathy using the words of your companion.
- Arrange a Self-Compliment
There is a thin line between a compliment and a flattery. Arrange a situation, when a companion makes a self-compliment. For example, someone says: “I have been working 60 hours per week to do this project”. Your response should be “One needs to have a strong willpower and be really hardworking to devote 60 hours per week to a project”. In most cases, your companion will tell “Yes, I was really working hard, but I coped with this”. A skill to cause a self-compliment is a great trick. Practice it and you will see the results.
- Ask for a Favor
Everybody knows the famous words of Benjamin Franklin on the thing, that the one, who did a favor to you, will more likely help you again than the one, who was helped by you. This phenomenon is named after Benjamin Franklin. When a person does something good to others, he works out his self-esteem. So, if you want a person to like you, ask him for a favor. However, do not misuse this trick.
All these pieces of advice are not an appeal for hypocrisy. We just want to help you to make good things for others and make them feel comfortable. Sometimes this serves your aims.